sempai kohai relationships
by Linnéa Bergman
My question is about sempai-kohai relationships.
Can you explain what makes someone sempai? For being a sempai what do you look at if the grades are equal: time that he started kendo or time that he is a member of this dojo or age? What are the responsibilities of sempai to his kohai and kohai to his sempai?
How should be the hierarchy in a dojo? Should sensei warn sempais and sempais warn kohai? Or should sempais don’t warn for anything at all in the presence of a sensei. I couldn’t explain myself but I think you'll understand what I meant.
What is the difference of respect level against a sempai and a sensei? Should we respect sempais as much as senseis?
Also what happens when a kohai gets to a higher grade than his sempai? Will he give advices to his former sempai and will the respect to each other change completely? This is a little odd.
You are doing a great job with this website. Thank you for that.
Answer: Good question.
First of all, I want you to remember that we all should respect each other no matter what. It does not matter who we are we should not disrespect anyone.
Now I have to mention that what I present here may differ from place to place even in Japan. This can be very complicated so I only talk about the
dōjō situation.
So don’t think this is the only one way. Some may disagree.
Sempai is usually those who has more experience in the area you have entered. It does not matter if you are older than them, if these people have been doing
kendo longer than you have, they are
sempai.
Now what if you’ve gotten higher than your
sempai? Your position in the
dōjō will be higher than your
sempais. But they will not call you
sempai. They are still
sempai of yours but you now hold a higher grade.
So you earn the title of
sempai and
kōhai when you start
kendo.
That relationship does not really change because of the grade you hold.
What if you and your sempai hold the same grade? Usually the older (age) guy should position himself/herself in the higher place.
For example, my father started
kendo at the age of 55. He became my
kōhai. But when he became 4-
dan, which was the same as I was then, I stepped down to the lower position than his.
The Hierarchy of Dōjō Sensei is the top. Then
sempai and
kōhai. However, it does not mean you can bully
kōhai or people who hold the lower grade than you.
Role of sensei, sempai and kōhai Sensei teaches
kendo techniques, attitudes and so on.
Sempai and
kōhai are students of a
sensei so of course, they should listen to their
sensei.
Sempai is still a student but has been a student at the
dōjō longer than their
kōhai, hence they are
sempai.
Since
sempai know more about their
dōjō and
kendo, they educate
kōhai. They should teach the rules of the
dōjō, etiquettes and manners of the
dōjō to
kōhai.
Sempai should teach
kōhai as they understand. Many
kōhai complains about
sempai because
sempai is too bossy.
Sempai is not a boss of
kōhai.
Sempai must be a good guidance.
Kōhai should listen to not only
sensei but also what
sempai teach you. Sometimes
kōhai do not really understand why they are told to do certain things. Do it anyway and ask why you had to do it later.
No one knows really why sometimes Questioning why is good. But we don’t really get an answer for it.
Kendo is an old martial art. Well, I should say it carries traditional thoughts, philosophies and movements of Japan, which even the Japanese do not know sometimes.
I want you to know that unless your teacher is a Japanese 7-
dan and 8-
dan, it is hard for your teacher to know the traditional aspects of
kendo.
So my advice is that we all have to humble to learn, especially without an experienced 7-
dan or more level
sensei.
Hope this helps.